Dealing With Kids And Their Impossible Game

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Being a life longgamer and having kids that game myself, I often hear their belief that they are playing an impossible game.  It can definitely be a little frustrating as a parent to repeatedly hear that a game is to hard too play.

The Problem

More often than not, I hear this concern from my kids when they are playing their electronic games but it can also rear its head with any game that they play.  Usually it is not the whole game that is the problem, but rather specific points where they hit a roadblock.

Playing Video Game
Argh!! This is Impossible!

How often have you heard these exclamations?

  • This level is impossible to beat!
  • There is no way to get past this point!
  • I have no clue what to do!
  • It can’t be done!
  • I give up, this is too hard!

I know personally when I was younger I voiced several of those comments or variations myself!  Eventually though, I learned that without those roadblocks the games would not be as satisfying to play.

Why The Hard Moments Make The Game

Whenever I hear my kids making one of the above exclamations, I am quick to point out to them that if the game was easy, it wouldn’t even be worth playing.  Challenges in games is what makes them exciting, it is the spice of the game.

Easy or Hard
Which is the best way to learn?

The hard parts are also the best moments in games (and life in general) to learn and grow.  When we stick to things that are easy, there just is not as much work required and thus not much growth to be had.  However, when we tackle the hard things in life we give ourselves great opportunities to learn.

I often will also use a comparison with my kids about once they have beaten a video game, how they then play the game less if at all.  As once you have conquered a video game it becomes easy to you and then there is less thrill to playing the game.

This Lesson Is Often Learned Over Time

Speaking from my own personal experience with my kids and myself, this lesson is often learned over time.  More than likely it will often take several conversations and teaching points to get this lesson across.  Getting stuck in a game and or not grasping a concept can be very frustrating and we need to remain patient in teaching this.

It is important to stay calm and to make sure that you do not overreact to the situation.  Keep a level head when you are working them, patience much like the tortoise will win the race!  If you do happen to lose your cool, make sure that once you have calmed down you go back to your kid and address the situation with a pleasant conversation.

Wrap Up

Happy Family
Turning negatives into positives is a great way to have a happy family

Make sure to keep a positive mindset when it comes to this situation and you will be able to take a negative moment and turn it into a great teaching point.  By helping your kids understand that instead of a roadblock it is a challenge that can be defeated, you are instilling values with them that will help to ensure a much more happier life.

If you have any tips or methods you use in this situation I would love to see them shared in the comment section below.  Also, if you have any questions I would be more then happy to help you with them as well.

James W D
james@familygamenightideas.com

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8 Replies to “Dealing With Kids And Their Impossible Game”

  1. This site is great. I really like your injection of life lessons into your posts and how you make games training for life.

    • Thank you! Comments like this help me to know that I am on the right track. The whole purpose behind this site is to help show how board games can be a benefit for life.

  2. Thanks for this awesome article. I have two kids, 13 and 7 years old and gaming is our weekend evenings tradition. This will help definitely next weekend for a much smoother and frustration free gaming time.

    • Your welcome Nicole! I am glad that you found the value in the article and I hope that you can apply what you have learned to help your family have a better game night. If you ever need any help with any particular problem, always feel free to ask for my advise.

  3. James,
    I love the concept of this site and the points made in this post. I hadn’t really thought of family gaming as an opportunity to teach important life lessons to children. I think that is a great to way to think about it and something that I can apply in my own family life. Thanks,
    Josh

  4. That situation is more than usual and it is as well a great moment for a parent. This moment can turn into a lesson or memory for the child where the parent taught him/her something about life. I really like and agree how you say that the learning is better when it comes from a hard situation; that is so true! And as parents we can take this moment as teaching tool and not as a hassle. Great post!

    • Thanks much Andrea, I am glad that I was able to get my point across clearly here. I truly do appreciate the hard things in life now much more than I used to when I was younger.

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